Tue 27 May 2008
Writing about love affairs
Posted by sandi under fiction writing
Well, it’s another day writing on the screened porch for me. Nice breezes, and the dogwood tree petals (now sadly spent) fluttering down onto the lawn like a mild snowfall, the kind you don’t have to shovel.
But it was a hard day just the same, because I’ve now reached the point in my novel where I have to write about the love affair that is at the heart of this book. I mean, I have to think of all the reasons that this married woman would risk everything to be involved with this married man. In my outline for the book, at the point of this chapter, it just says: “AND THEN THEY FALL IN LOVE. WRITE GOOD, BRILLIANT WRITING ABOUT LOVE.”
Luckily, for times like this, there are other writers. And Alice Munro does it so exquisitely perfectly, and so I’m reading some short stories by her to put me in the mindset of writing about why Annabelle fell in love with Jeremiah when she already loved Grant. Maybe it’s that she doesn’t love Grant enough; I’ve certainly planted that seed in this book so far, and I may have to go back and change that a bit, make her love him a little bit more. But maybe she loves him but reconizes that he is flawed, like she is, but then Jeremiah kind of sweeps her off her feet and out of her safety zone. It’s tricky, I’m not going to lie to you.
And meanwhile the porch is warm and the breeze is soft, and it’s so much more fun to read Alice Munro’s already published stories than to write my own, although I have a DRIVE to write this just right. I have to let go of the “doing it just right,” I think, and just DO IT, and then I can get it right later. Correct? Yes.
Jordie is sleeping right beside me in the shade, which is good because lately when he is awake he is making noises like HUH HUH HUH HUH HUH. And–well, he is lovable, like all golden retrievers, but lately, it must be said, he pumps out air as though he were a stinky air machine. I would like to get up and get more iced tea, but I’m afraid I’d hit the “on” switch on the stinky air machine, and then I’d have another hour before he could calm down again and go back to sleep.
I’m left asking myself the hard questions, like why oh why, did I give Jeremiah and his wife twin toddlers? That makes it sooo much worse. I tried to take them out of the book, but no, I think they’re really there. I think Annabelle had an affair with a man who had toddlers.
What do you do when your characters don’t behave correctly?





May 28th, 2008 at 8:13 am
Jeremiah reminds her of a long ago love that got away, and stays in her heart in the haze of youth. She thinks it’s another chance to win that crazy, heartstopping love of adolecence.
May 28th, 2008 at 12:38 pm
Oh, that’s a good one, Beth - I like it.
But about character misbehaving - I’m at that stage, too, where I’m trying to pull some things together because the character went down a road I didn’t realize she would.
And, btw, I also love writing outside - it frees my mind. If only I could but the new backyard is nothing but dirt right now.
May 28th, 2008 at 1:14 pm
Wow. That does sound like a challenge. Doesn’t it seem like our characters should behave? After all, *you’re* the writer, the creator, not them. And yet…They really do develop minds of their own. Best of luck with this. I’m sure it will be terrific when you’re finished. Oh, and I understand your reluctance to wake Jordie up. I hate to disturb my cats once they’ve become cozy and comfortable on my lap. No matter how thirsty I am, how badly I need to go to the bathroom, whatever, it’s just so hard to move them. And you have the added incentive with his breathing!
May 29th, 2008 at 9:37 pm
I cannot even begin to tell you how good this sounds and how I cannot wait to hear what happens with these two and the twin toddlers.
As for misbehaving characters, that’s probably good. I’m not sure I’ve ever really had that happen, because I’m so controlling, but I have the feeling it’s a fruitful thing and one I should let go and allow to happen.
xoxo, L
May 29th, 2008 at 10:37 pm
Oh, you are all so right. Thank you for your lovely replies and for thinking about this problem with me. These characters behave the way they behave, and I have to put up with them. The twin toddlers exist, and Annabelle and Jeremiah, too. And they got attracted to each other for a variety of reasons, some of them reasons they don’t even know! But here we are, me and them. And to paraphrase Anne Lamott who once famously said that she had to write her books for her characters because they can’t type, all I have is the story these guys want me to write for them. When I waver, one of them says to me, “No. No! Get it down the way I’m telling it to you. This is the way it was. I won’t steer you wrong.”
And so I will go with them.
May 30th, 2008 at 12:07 pm
Sandi, I found your blog through Caryn’s and in reading this post, I almost yelled, “Yes!” at my cubicle. My characters get a perverse pleasure in thumbing their noses at me, doing what they want and not what I thought they should do. I’m halfway between pantsing and plotting the current book, and after I finish (goooo SocNoc power!) I’m a little scared to go back and discover all of my loose, new and broken threads.
But, I love my characters and I love the story and I love writing it, so I’ll give them the best book I can. It’s in our blood, right?
Thanks for letting me come play!
June 3rd, 2008 at 1:43 am
Hi,
Glad you commented on my blog; followed your link back and I’m liking your blog.
I agree with you about Alice Munro: lovely writer.
I’m just now trying to figure out what to do with misbehaving characters. I’m in quite the tangle at the moment, and the only cure might be the revision process! I find that in-depth character analyses prevents many surprises, but obviously not all…